In The Living Years — Before It’s Too Late
I’ve always loved this song.
“The Living Years.”
There’s one line that never leaves me:
“I wasn’t there that morning when my father passed away…”
And another:
“Say it loud, say it clear. You can listen as well as you hear.”
It’s not just about a father and son.
It’s about ego.
It’s about silence.
It’s about words we never said.
And Ramadan starts tomorrow.
Let me ask you something.
How many conversations are still unfinished?
How many “I’m sorry” are still stuck in the throat?
How many “I love you” are assumed but never spoken?
The Struggle We Don’t Admit
We are busy.
Busy building careers.
Busy building organisations.
Busy chasing targets.
Busy fixing other people’s problems.
But sometimes…
We forget to fix what matters most.
Family.
Parents.
Spouses.
Children.
In the song, the regret is heavy.
They fought.
They disagreed.
They never fully reconciled.
Then one day — it was too late.
Ramadan is not just about fasting.
It is about returning.
Returning to Allah.
Returning to humility.
Returning to the people we love.
The Truth Moment
Allah reminds us clearly:
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents…”
(Surah Al-Isra’ 17:23)
Kindness is not just financial support.
It is tone.
It is patience.
It is listening.
Sometimes we hear…, but we don’t listen.
Sometimes we respond… but we don’t understand.
Sometimes we win arguments… but lose relationships.
5 Lessons from “The Living Years” — Before Ramadan
1. Say It Now
Don’t assume people know.
Say thank you.
Say I appreciate you.
Say I forgive you.
Say I’m sorry.
Ramadan softens hearts — use it.
2. Listen More Than You Speak
The song says:
“You can listen as well as you hear.”
Listening is an act of love.
This Ramadan:
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Listen to your parents’ stories.
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Listen to your spouse’s worries.
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Listen to your children’s dreams.
Even 10 minutes of focused listening can heal years of distance.
3. Drop the Ego
Many conflicts are not about right or wrong.
They are about pride.
Ramadan trains us to control hunger.
But it is also meant to train us to control our ego.
Ask yourself:
Is this argument worth losing barakah?
4. Repair Before It’s Too Late
Death doesn’t send a calendar invite.
If there is someone you haven’t spoken to…
Message them today.
Call them today.
Even a simple:
“Maaf kalau ada salah.”
That could change everything.
5. Live In The Living Years
Not the regret years.
Not the “if only” years.
Not the “one day” years.
Ramadan is a gift.
A pause.
A reset button.
A mercy.
My Personal Reflection
As a son.
As a husband.
As a father.
This song reminds me:
Success means nothing if relationships are broken.
Revenue means nothing if hearts are distant.
Leadership means nothing if the home is neglected.
This Ramadan, I want to:
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Speak softer.
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Forgive faster.
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Call my parents more.
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Appreciate my wife more.
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Be present with my children.
Not next month.
Now.
A Simple Ramadan Action Plan
Before Maghrib tomorrow:
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Send one message of appreciation.
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Make one call you’ve been postponing.
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Forgive one person in your heart.
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Make doa for those who have passed.
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Ask Allah for a heart that listens.
InsyaAllah.
Final Reflection
The song ends with regret.
Let ours begin with reconciliation.
We cannot change the past.
But we are still in the living years.
Alhamdulillah.
Ramadan Mubarak.
May this month heal what pride once broke.
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