Saturday, April 20, 2013

5 Things You Should Never Put on Your Resume

Just wanted to share this article that we read off from yahoo. Thought that it would be a good one to share.

By Tom Mangan Monster Contributing Writer 

Which blunders will send your resume straight into oblivion? There might be dozens, depending on the job, but experts say these five common resume mistakes are most likely to derail your job search. 

Your Age 

Hiring managers need to know what you can do for them, not how many years you�ve managed to stay alive. Darlene Zambruski, managing editor of ResumeEdge.com and JobInterviewEdge.com, advises against:
  • Listing professional experience more than 15 years old.
  • Providing an exact number of years of professional experience in your opening summary.
"For example: 'senior accountant with more than 25 years of experience in...' -- this kind of data invites age discrimination," Zambruski said. 

And don't forget that age bias cuts both ways: A resume that tells a future boss you're too young for the job is no good, either. 

Lists of Tasks or Duties Without Results 
Your resume has to go beyond saying which jobs you've done: It must establish what you've accomplished on those jobs. Many applicants miss this key distinction. 

"The only things that separate equally qualified candidates are the results of their efforts," Zambruski said. "For example, an administrative assistant may write, 'reorganized filing system.' That provides the task. What were the results? A better way to write it would be, 'Increased team productivity 20% by reorganizing filing system.' Results are what matter to hiring managers." 

Explanations of Anything Negative 
Everybody has dark stories in their past. 

There's no place for them on your resume. "Your resume is a promotional document and all promotional documents need to be positive," said Teddy Burriss, a career counselor and outplacement consultant in Winston-Salem, N.C. 

The time to explain yourself is when you're talking to somebody in person after you've scored an interview, Burriss said. 

A List of Every Job You've Ever Held 
Hiring managers don't want to know about that summer you worked as a lifeguard -- unless you're applying to manage the park district's pool. 

"Recruiters and hiring managers are looking for relevance and stability," Burriss said. The key is to list the work you've done in the past 10 to 15 years that tells an employer you're a skilled, reliable fit for the job. 

Say you've had three employers in the past seven years but only two of them are in the industry you're applying for. Employers don't want to see a gap in your employment record, so you still need to list that third job -- just make sure you list the accomplishments in that job that are relevant to the job you're applying for. 

Personal Details 
Employers usually don't care about your marital status, race, sexual orientation or hobbies, unless they are somehow pivotal to the job. Including personal data is a rookie mistake, and nobody wants to hire a rookie. 

Crafting and sending a resume is part of the "discovery phase" of the hiring process, Burriss said, so employers at this phase don't need personal details beyond your name, city, state and a way to contact you. If you make it to the hiring phase, the human resources department will collect your relevant personal details then. 

Most resumes are now transmitted electronically, and there's no way to be sure where one might end up after you send it in. With identity thieves always on the prowl, you always need to protect your personal data. Never include your Social Security number. 

A few more quick tips from the staffing agency Temporary Resources Inc.:
  • Make sure your resume has no typos, grammar goofs or factual errors (like getting a company's name wrong).
  • Don't list your salary history unless the employer demands it. 
  • Don't worry about providing references. You can do that in a separate document.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

The Croods


We just got back from watching a good movie with our kids. It was an animated movie simply entitled The Croods. To tell you the truth, we did not have any idea what the movie was about. It was in the spur of the moment on our daughter’s birthday. She wanted to do something together so we all agreed on a movie and the movie that could fit into our last minute schedule was The Croods. J

The movie was awesome. It had a good storyline and the animation and graphics were cool and bright. But most importantly the movie had a lot of lessons that we could take home and apply in our daily lives namely on leadership.

Before we go any further, here is a simple synopsis of The Croods so that you may better understand what we want to share today. Of course the best is to go and watch the movie!

The Croods is a prehistoric comedy adventure that follows the world's first family as they embark on a journey of a lifetime. The family consist of Eep, living in pre-historic times, her overprotective father Grug, mother Ugga, little sister Sandy, brother Thunk, and grandmother.

When the cave that has always shielded them from danger is destroyed, the Croods have to venture into the unknown for the first time. Traveling across a spectacular landscape, the Croods discover an incredible new world filled with fantastic creatures -- and their outlook is changed forever especially when they meet Guy, an intelligent caveboy.

You can check out the movie trailer here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fVCKy69zUY


So here are three lessons that we learned from The Croods that we can all use to succeed in life.

1.   Use your brain – IDEAS!
As humans, we have the ultimate gift which is our brains. This separates us from other things on this great earth. Most of the time because of our routine we never use our brain enough. We just set our life on auto pilot and do everything as we do them every day. Sure there are some things that you don’t have to think too much but what happen is that we do not utilize our brain.

We must focus on what we can do not on what we can’t do. When we have the right focus, we can use our brain to think and we will start to generate ideas that will help us to achieve our goals. That’s why if you spend a day thinking you will find yourself getting tired faster as whenever you need to think you are using your resources. Thinking is the most important activity but it is something that people don’t do enough.

Using your brain will allow you to plan your life better. You will also be able to come up with better solutions and better ways to do things. In short you can have a better life just by thinking more!

2.   Follow the light – DREAMS
The Croods showed us that we must have a dream. When you don’t have a dream you will be stuck in your life. One of the best ways to have a dream is to get the right exposure. As they say, exposure leads to expansion.

Most of the time our problem is that we do not see the light hence we cannot follow the light. Walt Disney so eloquently said, ‘If you can dream it, you can achieve it.’

The Croods managed to change their lives and more importantly survive because they decided to follow the light. If you want to be a great leader than you need to have a dream. You need to follow the light to your dreams. Once you see your light you can be the light for others to follow.

3.   Get out of the cave – GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!
In order to achieve success you need to get out of your comfort zone. Before they lost their cave, the Croods were just surviving. They were not even leaving. Their goal was not to die. To them anything new was bad. Experimenting was bad. Trying was bad. In short just do the same things that have kept them alive.

Getting out of your comfort zone is one of the toughest things to do in life. We all have problems to do it. In the Croods, when they decided to get out of their comfort zone and try out new things, they discover new things and it allowed them to grow to become better people.

Think back to the things that have happened to you that you thought was bad for you. Chances are those experiences have helped you to grow to become a better person. That’s why we learn more from our failures. Ask any successful person about their journey to success and we can guarantee you that they will have a lot of stories of failures along the way J

Thursday, March 21, 2013

5 Jenis Hidayah

Alhamdulillah, hari ini kami sekeluarga telah diberi taufik & hidayah serta peluang untuk menghadiri satu majlis ilmu di Masjid Saidina Abu Bakar As Siddiq, Bangsar. Perkongsian pada malam ini amat menarik sekali iaitu tentang hidayah.

Rupa-rupanya ada 5 jenis hidayah. Saya akan cuba berkongsi berdasarkan apa yang boleh saya ingat dan faham tadi.

1. Hidayah Tabiin atau Semulajadi
Menurut Ustaz, hidayah ini adalah hidayah semulajadi yang diberikan kepada semua makhluk termasuk manusia, haiwan dan tumbuhan.

Contohnya, anak penyu yang menetas akan terus menghala ke laut. Ini adalah hidayah tabiin. Ia tidak perlu diajar.  Malah kajian para saintis menunjukkan anak-anak penyu akan ke laut. Mereka telah meletak telur penyu di antara sungai dan laut dan subhanAllah, anak penyu apabila menetas menghala ke laut.

Contoh manusia pula adalah apabila lahir sememangnya bayi akan menangis. Malah kalau tidak menangis doktor akan tampar dan bayi akan menangis. Bayi tidak perlu diajar untuk menangis. Inilah yang dipanggil Hidayah. Tabiin.

2. Hidayah Pancaindera

Hidayah ini adalah hidayah yang diperolehi melalui pancaindera kita. Contohnya, kalau kita sentuh cerek yang panas sudah pasti kita akan bertindakbalas untuk menarik tangan kita.

3. Hidayah Akal

Hidayah akal adalah yang membezakan manusia dengan binatang. Malah manusia adalah sebaik-baik kejadian kerana kita mempunyai kelebihan iman dan juga akal.

4. Hidayah Islam

Hidayah seterusnya adalah hidayah Islam. Kita bersyukur kepada Allah SWT kerana kita dilahirkan sebagai seorang islam atau kita menerima hidayah untuk memeluk Islam. Walaubagaimanapun ini tidak menjamin syurga di akhirat nanti.

5. Hidayah Taufik

Hidayah yang paling hebat adalah Hidayah Taufik. Contoh hidayah taufik ini sepertimana yang Ustaz kongsikan adalah katakanlah kita hendak pergi menunaikan solat fardhu di Masjid Saidina Abu Bakar as Siddiq. Kita tidak tahu jalannya dan kita berhenti bertanya kepada seseorang. Orang tersebut lalu mmemberikan kita panduan dan kita pun cubalah untuk sampai. Hidayah Taufik adalah di mana apabila kita bertanya, orang itu juga berkata dia hendak ke masjid lalu menaiki kereta bersama untuk membawa kita ke Masjid. SubhanAllah!

Hidayah Taufik adalah di mana kita timbul niat kemudian Allah membantu kita untuk melaksanakannya. Jadi kita mestilah berdoa agar sentiasa dikurniakan hidayah taufik. InsyaAllah.


Saturday, March 16, 2013

Learning To Fail


Today we want to share one of the principles that are often neglected when we are trying to pursue success and making our dreams come true. The principle is the understanding of failure is part of success.

We were reading a book, entitled 18 Minutes which was a gift from our sister. In one of the chapters, the author discussed an interesting topic which was ‘Learning to fail’. It was an interesting chapter and we want to share with you today.

The author described that one day after his workout at the local gym, his fitness coach asked to see him after his session ended. He was surprised as he had done all the routine without fail. Nevertheless he went to see his coach. He asked his coach, what’s the matter? I did everything in the routine and I managed to do it all. I did not fail in anything. He said that is the problem. You did not fail!

He was surprised. He asked his coach what did he meant by not failing. His coach went on to explain and gave an example. You have been using the same weights for quite some time. Why have you not increased the weight? His answer was that he was afraid that he could not lift the weights and that he would fail to complete the routine. Therein lies the problem said the coach. You are too comfortable and you are afraid to make mistakes. You will never be able to grow your muscles.

Wow! That is a great point. Today in life we work hard to avoid making mistakes. We are so afraid of failures and making mistakes. We punish our young for making mistakes and they become perfectionist and stressed out when they make mistakes. We have people who quit their business because fear of rejections. People today just cannot handle mistakes, rejections and the NOs in life. Hence the reason why they cannot succeed.
We love Michael Jordan! We love to watch him play. He plays with passion and he is not afraid to fail. He was cut from his high school team because he was not good enough. And yet, today he is recognized as arguably one of the best to have ever played the game of basketball. His secrets, he has failed so many times that is why he succeeds. They even mad a video commercial that we love to share with you. Here is the link. Check it out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ZyMavSebpo

Today, make a decision to accept failures and rejections. The more failures and rejections that you can endure, believe that success is just around the corner. We have all heard of Thomas Edison’s failure. How many times did he fail to get the light bulb to work? What about Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken. How many doors did he knock before they gave him a chance to share his recipe? Imagine if they all gave up!

The thing that we must do is that we must learn from our failures and mistakes. Most of the time, we fail to do it hence we keep on making the same mistakes. Life is willing to teach us when we are ready to learn.

There is a great saying about school and life. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Terpisah Selepas Tawaf Pertama...

Alhamdulillah, syukur ke hadrat Allah SWT kerana dengan limpah kurniaNya serta izinNya, dapatlah kami sekeluarga menjadi tetamuNya di bumi suci Mekah & Madinah pada 11-23 Februari 2013 yang lalu. Alhamdulillah tercapai cita-cita kami sekeluarga untuk menunaikan umrah bersama. Terlalu banyak yang ingin dikongsikan, kini sudah 2 Jumaat berlalu sejak kami pulang ke Malaysia dan terasa rindu sekali dengan Kota Mekah & Kota Madinah. InsyaAllah matlamat seterusnya adalah untuk menunaikan Haji sekeluarga dan kemudian umrah setiap tahun insyaAllah.



Sekadar ingin berkongsi pengalaman semasa melakukan umrah pertama kami. Kami telah terbang terus ke Madinah dari KLIA. Setelah 5 hari 4 malam, kami pun bertolak ke Mekah untuk menunaikan ibadat umrah. Kami bertolak pada hari Jumaat dan sudah siap dengan berpakaian ihram. Setibanya di Bir Ali, miqat bagi semua yang ke Mekah dari Madinah, kami solat sunat ihram dan berniat umrah. Perjalanan bas dari Madinah ke Mekah mengambil masa 5 jam. Sepanjang perjalanan, kami rasa bersyukur kerana hidup di zaman yang serba moden dengan sistem pengangkutan dan jalan raya yang selesa. Di luar sana kami hanya nampak padang pasir. Kami tak boleh bayangkan bagaimana Rasulullah SAW & para sahabat berhijrah dan menunaikan Haji pada masa lalu. Sungguh hebat pengorbanan mereka.

Perjalanan kami diserikan dengan hentian di sebuah R&R untuk makan malam dan solat Jamak Takhir Isyak & Maghrib. Memang suasananya berbeza sekali berbanding di Malaysia. Kemudian kami berlima makan malam dalam talam berkongsi nasi dan lauk. Alhamdulillah lazat sekali & malam itu rezeki kami apabila kami terima sedekah 2 gelas teh 'O' dari pemilik restoran. Alhamdulillah!

Perjalanan diteruskan & alhamdulillah kami selamat tiba di Mekah pada jam 12 tengah malam. Kami terus di bawa ke hotel dan di minta berkumpul di lobi jam 12:20 pagi untuk terus ke Masjidil Haram bagi menunaikan umrah. Terasa sungguh bersemangat dan perasaan masih tidak percaya kami sudah berada di Mekah. Suasana di Mekah sibuk sekali dan terlalu ramai manusia walaupun sudah lewat malam. Setelah semua berkumpul, kami bergerak bersama berjalan kami sambil bertalbiah ke Masjidil Haram. Alhamdulillah, isteriku Elin mendukung Danish menggunakan carrier yang dipinjam dari adiknya Eirna. Terima kasih banyak Eirna & Jai, Allah sahaja yang membalas jasa mereka ;). Dengan carrier itulah kami sekeluarga dapat melakukan 5 umrah. Kalau tidak tak tahulah macamana sebab Danish tidak mahu berjalan dan terlalu ramai orang.

Setibanya di Masjidil Haram, kami terus masuk ke dalam sambil dipimpin Mutawir kami iaitu Ustaz Safarudin, seorang ustaz yang baik dan berilmu. Terima kasih Ustaz semoga Allah selamatkannya dunia & akhirat. Ustaz membimbing kami semua dalam 40 orang untuk melakukan umrah. Bua pertama kami melihat Kaabah, seperti tidak percaya. Allahuakbar, terima kasih Ya Allah kerana memberikan kami peluang menjadi tetamuMu. Kami terus dipimpin untuk melakukan tawaf. Sebaik sahaja kami mula melakukan tawaf, kami terpisah dari ustaz dan kumpulan kami kerana terlalu ramai orang. Pada waktu itu kami tidak risau kerana kami masih bersama. Jadi kami sepakat untuk lakukan bersama. Elin mendukung Danish dan saya memimpin Elina dan Aiman.

Selepas tawaf pertama, saya terbatal wuduk. Saya maklumkan kepada Elin dan dia terus memimpin anak-anak kami Elina & Aiman sambil mendukung Danish. Dia kata nanti jumpa di lampu hijau kita sambung tawaf bersama. Orang terlalu ramai dan itulah kali terakhir saya melihat mereka. Saya terus mencari tempat untuk mengambil wuduk. Pencuci di situ memberitahu, ambil sahaja dengan menggunakan air zam zam. Selepas ambil wuduk, saya terus melakukan tawaf, setiap kali tiba di lampu hijau saya cuba mencari Elin dan anak-anak tetapi tidak berjumpa. Terlalu ramai orang dan semuanya sedang bergerak melakukan tawaf. Saya menjadi risau kerana Elin terpaksa menjaga 3 orang anak-anak dan kami langsung tidak berbincang sekiranya terpisah di mana harus berjumpa atau tunggu.

Alhamdulillah saya berjaya menyelesaikan tawaf. Alhamdulillah, saya solat sunat di belakang Makam Ibrahim. Saya berasa risau dan sepanjang tawaf saya berdoa kepada Allah SWT perliharalah isteri dan anak-anak agar dapat berjumpa semula. Setelah selesai tawaf, saya terus ke tempat kami meninggalkan selipar dengan harapan mereka menunggu di sana. dalam perjalanan saya terserempak dengan satu pasangan suami isteri di dalam kumpulan kami. Mereka bertanya di mana isteri dan anak-anak? Saya beritahu kami terpisah. Mereka terkejut dan risau dan bertanya macamana? Saya beritahu mereka saya nak pergi lihat di tempat selipar mana tahu diorang tunggu di sana. Sampai di tempat seliapar, Elin & anak-anak tiada di situ. Saya menjadi risau dan saya berdoa kepada Allah SWT agar menjaga mereka.

Yang merisaukan saya adalah lebih kepada anak-anak kami Elina dan Aiman kerana kalau terpisah mereka tidak tahu hendak ke mana. Mereka tidak membawa HP dan ini merupakan malam pertama kami di Kota Mekah dan sudah pasti jalan untuk pulang ke Hotel juga mereka kurang pasti. malah nama Hotel pun mereka tidak tahu. Saya berdoa, Ya Allah, Kau peliharalah isteri dan anak-anak ku.

Pada waktu itu saya berfikir, apakah yang akan isteri ku lakukan. Dalam minda, saya tahu Elin akan teruskan untuk selesaikan umrah. Jadi saya terus melakukan Saie. Saya berdoa kepada Allah agar dapat dipertemukan dengan isteri dan anak-anak selepas Saei. Pada waktu itu bermacam-macam perkara bermain di minda saya. Saya teringat, Elin ada mengatakan yang dia nak bawa anak-anak buat umrah, mungkin inilah dia. Kemuadian mak saya sudah berpesan beberapa kali, jaga budak-budak, ramai orang. Pada waktu itu saya rasa tidak boleh buat apa-apa. Terlalu ramai orang dan pada waktu itu saya redha dan terima sebagai ujian.

Selesai 7 kali berulang alik Safa ke Marwah dan Marwah ke Safa saya terus bergegas ke tempat selipar. Pada waktu itu sudah pukul 3 pagi. AllahuAkbar! Saya dapat lihat Elin dan anak-anak di tempat selipar. Mereka selamat dan telah berjaya lakukan umrah. Alhamdulillah. Terima kasih Allah. Elin berkongsi dengan saya, selepas terpisah mereka cuba mencari saya tetapi tidak jumpa jadi mereka teruskan tawaf hingga selesai 7 pusingan. Setelah selesai Elin beritahu anak-anak sudah risau sebab sudah terpisah dengan ustaz dan juga bapa. Aiman sudah mahu menangis. Selesai tawaf mereka terus ke belakang Makam Ibrahim dan solat sunat. Selesai solat sunat, di depan mereka, terlihat Ustaz! SubhanAllah. Terus Ustaz bertanya di mana bapa? Mereka memberitahu Ustaz dan Ustazlah memimpin mereka sehingga selesai. Syukur Alahmdulillah.

Saya rasa gembira sangat semasa berjumpa semula Elin dan anak-anak. Soalan pertama mereka tanya, sudah bertahalul (gunting/cukur)? Saya beritahu belum sebab saya terus ke tempat selipar setelah selesai Saei. Lalu Ustaz Sarafudin terus memotong rambut saya untuk selesaikan umrah pertama kami sekeluarga.

Syukur kepada Allah SWT atas segala nikmatnya. Terasa sangat diri ini kerdil dan tiada apa-apa. Ya Allah tetapkanlah iman kami sekeluarga. Kuatkanlah iman kami dan berilah kami peluang menjadi tetamu lagi. Amin.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Amalan Seorang Sahabat Ahli Syurga

Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT memberikan peluang untuk terus hidup di dunia ini. Syukur pagi tadi dapat solat berjemaah dengan seisi keluarga dan dapat berkongsi hadith dengan semua tentang lebihnya umat Muhammad SAW iaitu dengan kalimah Lailahaillallah (Ω„Ψ§َ Ψ₯ِΩ„َΩ‡َ Ψ₯ِΩ„َّΨ§Ψ§Ω„Ω„Ω‡) . Sungguh beruntung kita sebagai umat Nabi Muhammad SAW kerana kalimah Lailahaillallah (Ω„Ψ§َ Ψ₯ِΩ„َΩ‡َ Ψ₯ِΩ„َّΨ§Ψ§Ω„Ω„Ω‡) boleh membantu kita kelak. InsyaAllah.

Selepas hantar anak-anak kesekolah, dengar radio IKIM FM dan ada perkongsian dari seorang Ustaz. Dia menceritakan sebuah kisah di mana Rasulullah SAW sedang mengajar sekumpulan sahabat dan kemudian Baginda Nabi SAW memaklumkan sedikit lagi akan datang seorang sahabat yang akan duduk bersama kita. Rasulullah seterusnya memberitahu semua di situ bahawa sahabat ini adalah seorang ahli syurga. Para sahabat semua teruja dan tidak sabar untuk melihat siapkah sahabat yang akan muncul.

Apabila sahabat ini muncul, semuanya melihat dia dan tersenyum dan meraikan kedatangannya. Setelah selesai perjumpaan dengan Rasulullah SAW, seorang sahabat pergi mendampingi sahabat yang dikatakan ahli syurga ini. Sahabat ini bertanya bolehkah dia menjadi tetamu kepadanya. Sahabat ahli syurga ini membenarkannya maka sahabat yang seorang lagi ini menjadi tetamu selama 3 hari. Maka dilayanlah sahabat ahli syurga ini selama 3 hari dari segi pemakanannya, tempat tidurnya dan sebagainya. Setelah hari ketiga sahabat ini meminta izin untuk pulang.

Setelah pulang, sahabat ini tertanya-tanya apakah yang membezakan sahabat yang dikatakan ahli syurga ini dengan dirinya kerana semua amalannya adalah sama. Ibadatnya, solatnya, makannya, cara hidupnya semua sama kecuali apa yang dilakukan oleh sahabat syurga ini di dalam bilik tidurnya bersama isterinya. Lalu sahabat ini terus ke rumah Rasulullah SAW. Beliau bertanya kepada Rasulullah SAW apakah perbezaannya. Rasulullah SAW memberitahu yang Baginda SAW tidak tahu jawapannya cuma Baginda SAW tahu yang sahabat tadi adalah ahli syurga. Rasulullah SAW menyuruh sahabat ini bertanya sendiri kepada sahabat ahli syurga.

Lalu sahabat ini pergi berjumpa semula dengan sahabat ahli syurga ini dan memaklumkan bahawa Rasulullah SAW ada memberitahu yang beliau adalah seorang ahli syurga. Sahabat ahli syurga ini terkejut kerana beliau senditi tidak tahu. Lalu ditanya apakah yang dia lakukan berbeza? Semuanya sama kecuali apa yang dilakukan di dalam bilik tidur.

Sahabat ahli syurga ini, menceritakan apa yang dilakukannya apabila masuk tidur. Sebaik sahaja aku baringkan diri aku di atas katil untuk tidur aku memohon kepada Allah SWT 3 perkara;

1. Aku memohon keampunan untuk orang yang paling rapat denganku selepas Allah SWT & Rasulullah SAW iaitu kedua ibubapaku. Aku memberitahu Allah SWT kedua ibubapaku adalah orang yang baik dan telah menjaga aku dengan baik oleh itu ampunilah segala dosa mereka.

2. Kemudian aku memohon kepada Allah SWT orang yang paling rapat kepada ku selepas ibubapaku iaitu isteriku. Aku memohon agar Allah SWT ampunkan dosanya walaupun kadang-kadang aku marah dan geram kepadanya tetapi aku maafkan dan aku doakan agar Allah ampunkan dosanya. Dia isteri yang baik dan semoga menjadi isteri yang soleh.

3. Ketiga aku doakan dan aku mohon keampunan untuk anak-anak ku. Memang ada hari aku berasa marah dan hilang sabar dengan anak-anak ku tetapi aku mohon ampun untuk mereka kepada Allah SWT. Mereka anak-anak yang baik dan jadikan meraka anak-anak yang soleh.

Wah! Sungguh hebat. satu amalan yang kita boleh lakukan bersama setiap malam sebelum tidur. InsyaAllah.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier by Geoffrey James

Read this great article over on yahoo. I just thought that I should share it and put it up on my blog :)

Here it is... enjoy!


9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier



Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other people happy is the highest expression of success, but it's almost impossible to make others happy if you're not happy yourself.

With that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your daily routine that, if you're like most people, will immediately increase the amount of happiness in your life:

1. Start each day with expectation.

If there's any big truth about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what? You're probably right.

2. Take time to plan and prioritize.

The most common source of stress is the perception that you've got too much work to do.  Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.

3. Give a gift to everyone you meet.

I'm not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.

4. Deflect partisan conversations.

Arguments about politics and religion never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."

5. Assume people have good intentions.

Since you can't read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.

6. Eat high quality food slowly.

Sometimes we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.

7. Let go of your results.

The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.

8. Turn off "background" TV.

Many households leave their TVs on as "background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?

9. End each day with gratitude.

Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.

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